It is a fact: couples can read the secret signs that their mate sends to them and thus, can tell, if their partner is in the mood for love. One counselor says, “Non-verbal communication is tremendously important. After a year or two together, a couple has many different ways of reading each other. Sometimes it’s a way of looking at each other, walking together, a touch of a hand, or some other signal.” The problem, she further says, is that sometimes, couples think that they can read every sign that their partner is sending. Men in particular, have more difficulty reading a woman’s body language. This is because women are by nature, fickle-minded. They say ‘yes’ when they mean ‘no’ — even in body language! They are also more creative and therefore, have .many different ways of expressing what they feel. The best thing to do, when you are confused about the message that your partner is sending, is to discriminately ask.

SOME SIGNS THAT MEAN ‘YES’

• Tickling, poking or other playful gestures – Some wives resort to physical playfulness when they want to hint at something else. They may tickle their husband or poke him every now and then. Unfortunately, some husbands respond with, “Will you stop being childish! I’m busy,” or “We’re too old for that!”
• Wearing sexy lingerie – If the woman unexpectedly wears something really tempting, like short shorts, sando tops or silk nighties, then it is obvious that she is feeling sexy.
• Those unusual, meaningful touches – Some women use touching as a sign that they are in the mood for love. They caress their mate’s hair or arms, run their fingers through his nose or squeeze his palm. Of course, there may be other reasons and ways of touching. The husband should look for other signs or he might make a wrong interpretation.
• Meaningful looks that talk – can do it from across a room full of people! Sometimes, it’s the way a woman bats her eyelashes or how she holds the man’s eyes with her eyes for sometime.
• Being unusually attentive – If a woman suddenly notices little things about her man–his five o’clock shadow, imaginary dirt on his collar, a rash on his cheek–then she may be signaling something to him.
• Preparing small surprises – When she calls up her man at the office just to say, “Will you be home soon? I baked your favorite dessert for you,” and there’s no special occasion, then she may be saying “I’m in the mood to be your dessert!”

SOME SIGNS THAT MEAN ‘NO’

• Headaches and pains – This is the most common and most obvious of course. You can not expect a woman who is complaining of headache, back-pain or toothache to be in the mood for love. She may not really be feeling any pain at all, she wants it clear right from the start that she is not interested at the moment!
• Wearing turn-off clothes – When a woman goes to bed wearing double-layer clothes, and with rollers and/or gooey cream on her face or sans dentures, then the message is likewise clear keep off!
• Distancing herself – She flops on the bed and faces away from her husband. Or she covers herself with blanket from head to toe. And then, she may carry a thick pocketbook and wear her reading glasses as she hits the bed.
• Bringing home work – If the woman brought tons of paperwork from the office, then she is clearly not in the mood for love. For all you know, she may just be using the papers as props to keep him away.
• Heavy movements – Women are more prone to this. They go about their job in the kitchen with such heavy movements, that it seems they are mad at the whole world! They bang the pots and pans, slam cabinet doors or kick the ref door close. No man would want to touch a volcano that’s ready to erupt!

Of course, you and your partner have your own special love language. What means ‘yes’ to a couple may mean ‘no’ to another. In the end, it doesn’t matter how you say it, but that your partner understood you–even if no one else does!